Yes, I feel like a boob. Lol. I just spoke with Jonathan and I feel this way for two reasons. First, there was a miscommunication from me when I first mentioned Texas. I said something along the lines of us being okay with picking up and going out there to deliver because we wanted to move there anyway. He thought I meant that when we went out there before the baby was born we were MOVING there, like, permanently. I clarified today that while we are buying a house there, it isn't and wasn't going to be for a good couple of years still so that we can save up on a house. Boob.
Second, I assumed from his last set of texts that there was little chance of contracts being ready in time for the Feb IUI so switching to New Mexico wouldn't really make a difference time wise. Well today I found out that supposedly, the lawyer and Kristen ARE working to get him the contract this coming week and he's already paid her money so switching would involve paying more. Boob.
So for now, the plan is to continue on the Texas path. Jonathan is going to call the lawyer on Monday to see if she will in fact have the contract in time and also ask some pertinent questions. What happens if the baby comes before it's been 90 days? Will I have to prove I've been a resident for 90 days because I won't have utility bills or anything other than a vacation rental to show such? Etc.
Sorrell and I discussed the plan and what Jonathan and I had talked about on the phone and we decided that should we end up switching to NM for whatever reason, we're going to give back $4000 toward the additional lawyer fees since we'd be spending at least that much on a rental for four months in Texas. And let's face facts, ultimately it would be WAY easier for us to stay here in ABQ.
Currently, the plan is to see if Jonathan will have the contract this week and we can get everything reviewed in time for the Feb 1ish IUI. If that isn't going to happen or it turns out there WILL be an issue with the 90 day residency thing, then we will reassess later this week I guess...
I feel really bad though. Like I'm running Jonathan around and making him think I'm some crazy unstable person! Especially since while I'm still okay with Texas, now I'm secretly kind of hoping we end up switching to NM just for the ease of everything. I did assure him that surrogacy or not, we will be living here in ABQ for at least a couple of years until we are 100% ready to purchase our house. LOL I just hope that it all works out for the best in the long run for everyone!
Second, I assumed from his last set of texts that there was little chance of contracts being ready in time for the Feb IUI so switching to New Mexico wouldn't really make a difference time wise. Well today I found out that supposedly, the lawyer and Kristen ARE working to get him the contract this coming week and he's already paid her money so switching would involve paying more. Boob.
So for now, the plan is to continue on the Texas path. Jonathan is going to call the lawyer on Monday to see if she will in fact have the contract in time and also ask some pertinent questions. What happens if the baby comes before it's been 90 days? Will I have to prove I've been a resident for 90 days because I won't have utility bills or anything other than a vacation rental to show such? Etc.
Sorrell and I discussed the plan and what Jonathan and I had talked about on the phone and we decided that should we end up switching to NM for whatever reason, we're going to give back $4000 toward the additional lawyer fees since we'd be spending at least that much on a rental for four months in Texas. And let's face facts, ultimately it would be WAY easier for us to stay here in ABQ.
Currently, the plan is to see if Jonathan will have the contract this week and we can get everything reviewed in time for the Feb 1ish IUI. If that isn't going to happen or it turns out there WILL be an issue with the 90 day residency thing, then we will reassess later this week I guess...
I feel really bad though. Like I'm running Jonathan around and making him think I'm some crazy unstable person! Especially since while I'm still okay with Texas, now I'm secretly kind of hoping we end up switching to NM just for the ease of everything. I did assure him that surrogacy or not, we will be living here in ABQ for at least a couple of years until we are 100% ready to purchase our house. LOL I just hope that it all works out for the best in the long run for everyone!