Just finished my phone call with Jonathan, my potential IF. I love him even more on the phone than on paper! He seems like such a genuine, caring guy and his personality confirms my feelings that he just really longs to be a father and if given the opportunity, he will be an amazing one.
We discussed a bunch of things regarding the logistics of working together and then just talked about ourselves and our lives and how we each got into this whole mess. It was very comfortable and natural. I will say, that out of the three phone calls I've done before, I was most nervous about this one. I don't know if it is because I wanted us to like each other so much or because Sorrell wasn't here with me for this call or a combination of both but my palms were a little sweaty and my heart was racing at first! Once we got to talking though, I was fine!
We did discuss VBAC (which he isn't opposed to so long as a doctor okays it) and touched on birth center birthing. Jonathan mentioned that he doesn't know yet how he feels about birth centers and would have to think more about that. Obviously I'm not opposed to a hospital setting if I can at least still try for my VBAC but it's just so much more loving, caring and peaceful at a birth center. So if we match, I may have to ask him to at least read the research I have on birth centers vs hospitals and read up on natural birth, like Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth, etc. Ultimately, it'd be his decision. I just want him to understand the facts about the safety of birth centers (such as that only 1.9% of the roughly 13% of transfers to hospitals from birth centers are for emergency situations) before making a decision since a birth center would be my ultimate preference.
I've already emailed Jennifer and told her that I'm interested in moving forward so now I just wait again. Hurry up and wait! :) I'm feeling good about this and just hope that I'm right.
We discussed a bunch of things regarding the logistics of working together and then just talked about ourselves and our lives and how we each got into this whole mess. It was very comfortable and natural. I will say, that out of the three phone calls I've done before, I was most nervous about this one. I don't know if it is because I wanted us to like each other so much or because Sorrell wasn't here with me for this call or a combination of both but my palms were a little sweaty and my heart was racing at first! Once we got to talking though, I was fine!
We did discuss VBAC (which he isn't opposed to so long as a doctor okays it) and touched on birth center birthing. Jonathan mentioned that he doesn't know yet how he feels about birth centers and would have to think more about that. Obviously I'm not opposed to a hospital setting if I can at least still try for my VBAC but it's just so much more loving, caring and peaceful at a birth center. So if we match, I may have to ask him to at least read the research I have on birth centers vs hospitals and read up on natural birth, like Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth, etc. Ultimately, it'd be his decision. I just want him to understand the facts about the safety of birth centers (such as that only 1.9% of the roughly 13% of transfers to hospitals from birth centers are for emergency situations) before making a decision since a birth center would be my ultimate preference.
I've already emailed Jennifer and told her that I'm interested in moving forward so now I just wait again. Hurry up and wait! :) I'm feeling good about this and just hope that I'm right.