So Jonathan mentioned to me yesterday that the lawyer told him I'd have to be in Texas at least 90 days prior to the birth of the baby in order to establish residency. He said that would mean me going out there at 6 months pregnant just to be safe. Hmm. We had planned on only going out there for the last two months or so…not four! Not to mention that I will only be renting a vacation rental while we're there and weren't planning on switching anything like car insurance over to Texas so technically, even if I was there 90 days prior, I wouldn't be able to prove residency.
Regardless, I told Jonathan that was fine, we'd figure it out. Then I got to thinking and realized that, duh, now that we're in New Mexico and not Florida, I don't care if we deliver here or in Texas. So I sent him another text bringing up the fact that before we get to deep into contracts (and since he said he didn't think we'd make the January IUI after all) maybe we should go ahead and consider switching to a New Mexico contract and delivery. That way, I could just stay here and we wouldn't have to worry that I wouldn't be in Texas long enough. I said we could discuss it later when we talk on the phone and he said good idea.
So I emailed Kristen at Simple and she said that would just mean getting him a new lawyer here in New Mexico and drafting a NM contract. She did also say that since we won't be validating the contact in Texas, there may be a way around the 90 residency aspect and was going to check with their law team.
In the meantime, I started looking into birthing here, just so that I'd be prepared when Jonathan and I spoke. Turns out there is a FABULOUS birth center right here in Albuquerque with Certified Nurse Midwives. Also, my MIL is a nurse (not L&D, but a nurse none the less) so she'd be here should we need anything and for support.
Today, I've been thinking about the logistics of both options. And I'll be honest, while it will be more of a pain initially because we'd have to switch things and more definitely would be looking at a March 1 IUI, it makes more sense to me to switch over to NM. Just thinking about the idea getting out to Texas in time gives me some anxiety. And should baby decide to come early, I'd have to make sure and get inside the Texas state line for the contract to be in effect.
The reason we initially wanted to deliver in Texas was because where we were in Florida is not VBAC friendly and I refuse to have another cesarean for no reason. But now that we are in another VBAC friendly state, there really isn't any reason to go there.
Ugh…I hate being such a pain and making things difficult, especially when we're trying to get things rolling sooner than later but I'm really starting to feel overwhelmed now knowing that I'd have to be in Texas for so long. Not to mention that if we have to be there that long, I'll go by myself at first and Sorrell and the kids would come out later since the kids will be in school and while 2 months away is manageable in Kindergarten if planned ahead…4 months is not.
Now I just have to discuss with Jonathan and hope that he doesn't hate me for wanting to maybe change things up just when we were starting contracts. :-/ Hopefully he'll be relieved that I don't want to make things difficult by trying to relocate in the middle of it all? Lol.
Regardless, I told Jonathan that was fine, we'd figure it out. Then I got to thinking and realized that, duh, now that we're in New Mexico and not Florida, I don't care if we deliver here or in Texas. So I sent him another text bringing up the fact that before we get to deep into contracts (and since he said he didn't think we'd make the January IUI after all) maybe we should go ahead and consider switching to a New Mexico contract and delivery. That way, I could just stay here and we wouldn't have to worry that I wouldn't be in Texas long enough. I said we could discuss it later when we talk on the phone and he said good idea.
So I emailed Kristen at Simple and she said that would just mean getting him a new lawyer here in New Mexico and drafting a NM contract. She did also say that since we won't be validating the contact in Texas, there may be a way around the 90 residency aspect and was going to check with their law team.
In the meantime, I started looking into birthing here, just so that I'd be prepared when Jonathan and I spoke. Turns out there is a FABULOUS birth center right here in Albuquerque with Certified Nurse Midwives. Also, my MIL is a nurse (not L&D, but a nurse none the less) so she'd be here should we need anything and for support.
Today, I've been thinking about the logistics of both options. And I'll be honest, while it will be more of a pain initially because we'd have to switch things and more definitely would be looking at a March 1 IUI, it makes more sense to me to switch over to NM. Just thinking about the idea getting out to Texas in time gives me some anxiety. And should baby decide to come early, I'd have to make sure and get inside the Texas state line for the contract to be in effect.
The reason we initially wanted to deliver in Texas was because where we were in Florida is not VBAC friendly and I refuse to have another cesarean for no reason. But now that we are in another VBAC friendly state, there really isn't any reason to go there.
Ugh…I hate being such a pain and making things difficult, especially when we're trying to get things rolling sooner than later but I'm really starting to feel overwhelmed now knowing that I'd have to be in Texas for so long. Not to mention that if we have to be there that long, I'll go by myself at first and Sorrell and the kids would come out later since the kids will be in school and while 2 months away is manageable in Kindergarten if planned ahead…4 months is not.
Now I just have to discuss with Jonathan and hope that he doesn't hate me for wanting to maybe change things up just when we were starting contracts. :-/ Hopefully he'll be relieved that I don't want to make things difficult by trying to relocate in the middle of it all? Lol.